Raising Children Who Succeed. Choosing to raise a child is one of the most powerful actions a person can take. Whether the child is genetically linked or adopted from another family, having a child is a life-long commitment. It’s more distressing than owning a pet. There is a well-known adage that having a child is equivalent to wearing your heart outside your body for the rest of your life. To a certain extent, this is true. Consider how awful adolescent angst was. It’s worth mentioning when you’re dealing with your own child’s sadness for the first time!